Boundaries To Set In A Relationship

Waking up to a nagging partner over passwords and journals is a long gone experience that in the current world we live in, no one would like to experience. We look up to having exciting relationships and with partners that understand our personality: they also allow us to live the life we want for ourselves on condition that it doesn’t hurt them. Every healthy relationship has boundaries and both parties have established ways to communicate with each other. Boundaries are meant to protect your wellbeing and when they are well communicated, your partner will understand your expectations and know the consequences of breaching the agreement. Communication is the utmost solution to setting boundaries among other ways but first let’s discuss on the boundaries to set in your relationship.

Finance.

Topics about money will always turn wild when it comes to couples. While others feel having a joint account could save them arguments about your partner’s spending, others feel it is better to manage your own account and contribute to whatever you agree on. Learn to communicate your stand in a respectful way and listen to your partner’s view. Discus about your financial goals upfront. Be keen not to compromise your beliefs too.

Goals.

No one should be in a position to tell you what to do and what not to do when it comes to your goals and pace. Ensure you let out what your goals are and what you expect from your partner. Let them know how much you are committed to it and that support is accepted but undermining is not.  

Sexual expression.

Some people like sex in the morning, others in the wee hours. Others like it wild while others are slow and sensual. You need to tell your partner what you can do and what you aren’t in for. If your partner doesn’t know what you stand for, that will mean you are compromising and will burn out your flame quick. Let your preference be known.

Past lives.

Your past is yours. People tend to feel like they have the right to know your past just because they are in your life now and then you are an open book to them. Do not fall for that. Your past belongs to you and unless you are comfortable doing so, do not feel obligated to make yourself an open book.

Family and friends.

The needs of family will often swirl around the relationship and setting boundaries on each family’s interaction will prevent emergency restoration later.

Friends also intervene and influence a lot in the relationships if you let them, otherwise, it is wise to agree on how  much influence to let in your relationship.