Easy Ways on How To Make Good Friends

It is said that we never get far in life without good people skills. We have to sharpen our social skills in order to improve how we relate with others. Making friends as children was easy since you’d just approach another child and request them to be your friend. As we venture into adulating, the same procedure becomes hard. As people grow older, they have a preferred taste of friends and the kind of people they want to surround themselves with and most times they become judgmental. So you have to have the skills of being charismatic and friendly to gain some friends. Not that you have to fake all that but it has to come out natural so that you can also be comfortable. The awkwardness while meeting new people is very troubling. I will include some icebreaker tips to help get over it and create pals.

FIND PLACES TO MEET NEW FRIENDS.

You can never make friends if you stay indoors at the time. You need to go out and mingle. Visit places like the malls, go for swimming lessons or for fun, attend festivities and engage in things that will help you mingle with others. Even going out in eateries may land you a good friend. Engage in activities that you like so that you find someone with similar interests. Join clubs and societies that you are interested in and you may volunteer for causes you believe in.

BE THE FIRST TO INTRODUCE YOURSELF.

You can engage in all activities and join all clubs but you can never make friends if you don’t talk with them. Always wear a smile, maintain eye contact and a warm countenance when approaching people. You can comment on something they are wearing or anything in the environment and see how it goes. If you can make jokes about it then, ensure they are not hurtful. Introduce yourself at the end of the first talk that you have initiated. Then, you can bring about a topic that you can talk about maybe about public transport or traffic jam, lean on the common topics.

KEEP THE CONVERSATION ON SMALL TALK

You do not have to pour it all on the first day of meeting a friend. Keep the small talk on common things you would both like to talk about so that you do not sound desperate or bring in an awkward moment. It is said that it is the small things that matter. Therefore, engage in conversation that is mere talk but is making sense and can build the conversation to another level. People tend to like talking about themselves and what they have achieved, give a listening ear and show attentiveness by nodding and maintaining eye contact. Questions also build to such conversations. If they talk about their job you could ask about how they got it to push the conversation on.

SUGGEST FOR ANOTHER MEETUP.

If you see to it that the person is interested too, suggest that you should meet up again either for lunch or just meet and greet. In this manner, you will exchange contacts and get to find a way to keep in touch. Suggest places that are full of life and activities that you both can engage in and have a greater time than when you first met. Touch on topics that will help you learn about the person you are engaging yourself with. Ask questions concerning normal situations and see how they handle situations at hand. Enjoy your time together and learn about new things too.

Making friends as an adult is not an easy task as you may think but with the right attitude, you can make it. People may seem judgmental about you but do not give up, seek and you shall find. Adios.