The Equilibrium Of Marriage
It's mid-morning hours on my worship day. I am seated at the mothers' section which is the furthest end of the church. The children as usual are noisy, jumping up and down, others are crying while others are determined to ensure that their mothers leave the church as they came- empty.
Joylyne Koile 
Generally, this is the most messed up part of this house but as I try to adjust myself so as I can grasp what the preacher has for us in-store today, the first words I hear from him are that we should let the children play because that's their Father's house! Well, let's continue...
"We are still tackling family life and today I want to talk about balancing for equality in marriage," he kicks off his preaching.
"For every marriage to work, there must be a balance as one of the pillars. Just like a house, a marriage must be well planned for with every requirement stated and budgeted for. Once these have been achieved and we've found the contractor, we start focusing on how the shape of the house while referring to the house's plan. We'll know that the foundation of a successful marriage is the Supreme Being. God never planned for any marriage to break but the devil is out here overworking."
He sips his water and continues, "I need a couple to come up front." He calls for the third time and still, no couple is insight. After murmurs and looks stripped of doubt, a young couple takes a few steps and stands next to him. He then asks who the heavier person is and it turns out that the man is. Lucky him, his woman has kept him well. No doubt that their family is happy and complete. Or let's just say that he quickly forgives and doesn't remind his woman of her last year's mistakes whenever an argument breaks out. That's total peace
"The man is the heaviest in this case. Let's say this is the pivot," he says as he puts down an armless plastic chair he'd taken from the congregation's side. Picks a bench and puts it on the plastic chair so that the plastic chair becomes the pivot. He shoots his questions to the watchful servants of the Lord who should sit next to the pivot and we all answer in unison citing the man. Then he goes ahead, "that's how a marriage should be. The heavier person should move next to the pivot and closer to the lighter person so as to find balance. Whether you're heavier financially, thoughtfully, emotionally, strength-wise or spiritually, you should always be moving closer to your partner.
When you move away from your partner, he/she will fall and that becomes the fall of your marriage too. It's so sad that once a man or woman realizes that the partner is weaker at something, they opt to move away rather than move closer. Move closer to the one you chose despite all the challenges you face."
"Amen." Says the congregation with brighter smiles or their faces while others seem to be deep in thoughts
That becomes the end of our spiritual meal. I leave the church with a lesson to carry into my next life
