Why you shouldn't sleep with a friend

Sex and/or relationships with a guy/girl you just met at a bar, and sexual relationships with a good friend, are two different things.

Why you shouldn't sleep with a friend

It could ruin your friendship

The friendship dynamics can change. What was once a very mutual like and respect for one another can get very weird very quickly – especially if one of you had feelings for the other.

The other matter could be that he/she is now expecting you to act a different way toward them, whether it happens that they don’t want to hear about you seeing someone else, or they get jealous in general.

When they get someone else

You sleep with that person and then they start dating someone else.

It becomes awkward from here on when they introduce you to the new guy/or girl as their close friend but you both know you are not just a good friend. There's also the fear of that partner finding out later that he/she isn't just your friend.

You are therefore faced with confessing and losing one of your friends or partner, or facing your partner when he/she confronts you with the truth that he/she found out from someone else.

You can't give unbiased advice

It becomes strange to go to this person that you had sex with, to talk about your heartbreaks and dating life. Maybe it used to be normal to seek their opinions before the sex happened, but not anymore.

Their opinion somehow appears clouded by their personal interests in you.

You need to be brutally honest with yourselves

When you want something badly it's easy to convince yourself that everything's fine when it's not. You could end up in a relationship that leaves you feeling insecure and lacking in confidence all because you or them couldn't admit to yourselves that actually, you'd really like to be in a proper relationship together.

Pure intentions?

You also call their actions to question. Whatever he or she does might get interpreted as a calculated move to get back in bed with you - especially if the first time was really great.